Well so it was around 7 O'Clock and i was sweating it out, in the August sun, on the basketball court when one of my batch mates came and asked me if i wanted to go out and grab dinner at one of the many restaurants that hand sprung up around our university one in particular called Chanumda served some amazing food, so we decided that we would meet there and as it was i needed a bath if any one else was going to keep their food down so i told him that i would take a shower and then join the rest of the batch at Chamunda. So i finished the game, headed to my room took a very cold shower and then headed out on the road, the sun was going down the road looked beautiful, long and straight and i was tempted so i took off straight instead of stopping at the restaurant i headed of out of town and on a ride, the sun hadn't set yet and i had time before dinner.
Ten kilometers on i slowed down and turned around and i raced back to our dinner place and the night had fallen and it was dark on the highway but this far out of town it was deserted, i came to a long sweeping curve and i leaned over not far out to scrap my foot pegs but enough to carry the same speed i was going as i came around the apex of the curve i saw a man on a cycle to the left on the very edge of the road he was just tottering and i was going at around 90 kms per hour, so i didn't give him much thought and concentrated on maintaining my line thorough the corner. just before i reached him i realised there was a speed breaker there and having forgotten to slow down for it i took off, and landed, upright, just a little behind and to the right of the cyclist, i realised some thing was very wrong at this moment, the cyclist had changed position while i was in the air and now he was angling right across my front wheel and there was nothing i could do.
There is this very funny feeling when you realise you are going to crash, just before the crash, the world slows down and you speed up, you try every thing to prevent the crash even before your brain can think of it, its instinctive, haul in the clutch, switch down a gear to use engine braking to slow down, at the same time you use your front brake to do the actual braking and you are tapping the rear brake to keep the bike straight, all this while you are still looking for options if you cant slow down in time, way out if you don't have the time to brake or space to stop before a crash occurs. well that is pre-crash and as most crash come with out too much warning this period of sped up time is very short, micro seconds, even though you might have done stuff that you do gradually over a period in normal riding. Some times all this helps and you slow down or swear around what ever you were heading towards.
Some times, as it happened then, that is just not enough, instinct and all is just fine but you cant beat physics, a hurtling mass weighing 180 kilos has some inertia and it takes force, distance, time and a lot of other stuff found in mother's chicken soup to stop. Its like the answer to every thing is "42" but you don't know the right question just yet. Any way as things happened i forgot to remember there was a speedbreaker there and well may be it was lonely and i didn't pay it any attention and catching some air seemed like a good proposition, i don't remember what was the case that day. Well i had landed just a bike length behind the cyclist and had realised to my horror that he was angling across me, well all the pre-crash stuff happened and then the crash happened. Now in a crash the opposite happens in stead of time speeding up it slows down, it slows down just before the actual impact and clarity increases, so i saw the bike Tbone the cyclist right behind the spot where the pedals are fixed, it was a old hero cycle. all my speed, all screaming skidding and sliding 90 kmph of it with the added inertia of a 180 kgs stopped all of a sudden and transfered all that energy into the frame of the cycle. Now all that 180 kg was not the bike alone that included me and physics dictates that i keep traveling so when the bike slowed down to a stop i went flying above and over the cyclist, you see the cycle frame bending, some how i realised he was drunk and i was glad that at least i wasn't to blame for the crash or at least not fully. well back to the crash, the second thing i realised was even though we were on a National Highway it was pretty deserted and and since there was no traffic no one was going to run us over, and there was a petrol pump a few meters ahead so if nothing else, help would arrive before some errant truck driver ran over us. then i hit the road, the world slowed down or i caught up to the world and a lot of feelings came back too, feelings as in "i feel a pin prick", not the emotional variety, my specs broke inside my lid and the glass shattered and cut up most of my my face, none of the cuts were deep but the were bloody, then i stooped i could feel the road through my riding gloves and jeans but no big injuries, as in large swathes of skin scrapped off, thanx to the above mentioned items and no head injury either thanx to my trusty lid. which shattered on impact.
There end of crash or post crash, but it takes time to slow down this time its more biology and physics than physics alone, at the end of crash your body is still high on adrenalin, it drives you and numbs a lot of pain sensations and injuries to the extent that they can be ignored, take too much time to collect your self and you might come off the high and end up as a whimpering ball in the middle if the road and no help to any one.
So i pick my self up and do a quick SitRep, no serious injuries, broken lid, scrapped gloves will have to go, not too much skin scrapped off, (note to self buy new lid and gloves tomorrow), the jeans torn in places nothing too bad though, might even look cool in class tomorrow.
"where was that drunk mobile wall that i had run into?" oh there he is, curled up in a ball,
noises of people running, look up the petrol station people have seen or heard the crash and running to help, good, pick up the idiot, he falls down again, pick him again, he is shaking worse than a jelly who got into fight with Mike Tyson, he is in shock, well roll him over to the side of the road.
pick up bike, you rarely realise how heavy your bike is until you have to pick it up after a bad crash and your coming off a adrenalin high, oh good some one has take that off my hands, there are people around now, you see the guy recoil from the stink the drunk is making, good I wont get beat up. where is the cycle, ok that bent up unicycle was once a bicycle. the lids getting constricting, take it off, the guy asking you questions in a foreign language (it was hindi but my mind was too wound to make sense) recoils as the lid comes off, he points to my face and says there is a lot blood, ohh, good i must look like an extra from evil dead or my shower wasn't effective. Need to get help, intelligent help, check cell phone, good still working, bad, no network, a bike coasts to a stop next to you, the rider asks if i need help, tell them about your batch eating dinner, he goes and collects them, get Bhism to go over the mobile road block(the Drunk), no broken bones no scrapes, leave him by the road side and work over his shock and hangover, he is not your problem, some thing does not feel right, the leg hurts like a Bi*** and the hand doesn't feel right either. The adrenalin high is getting over too, my face hurts too. get Amit to take u to your mom, she is a doctor, she know what to do, no bad idea, go to someone else she would freak out. Two broken bones, one in the leg, one in the left arm, broken nose and a few scratches on the face and arms and a very mad girlfriend the bill for dinner out, not bad, for when Physics(inertia), biology(adrenalin) and chemistry(a drunk with alcohol in the system) clash violently.
If you are not prepared to look stupid, nothing great is ever going to happen
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Ok I was recently talking to a friend of mine about relationships and related stuff and it set me thinking. There was the usual progression, I suppose, Hopeless first love, this and that over the years, unrequited mad crushes. OK well hopeless first love was when i was thirteen, she was a classmate of mine but i was a clumsy, introverted oaf, more adept at football, and scurrying around on the basketball court than telling her how I felt about her. Well i kept staring at her for the next four years and well never told her how i felt. Don't get me wrong, i mean my best friend was a girl, heck my frist friend was a girl, she was my Godfather's daughter and we talked about every thing but when it came to my "hopeless first love" i was born dumb and mute. her name was Surabhi.
We made it to the Tenth standard some how, we studied together, we as in my best friend and me, her name was Sarah. We played on the band together, we played mixed doubles on the badminton squad, and some where along the way we noticed that we were indispensable to each other. When we were in play school we went to a "Fancy Dress party", dressed as a North Indian Bride and Groom. We protected each other from every thing and for some reason we were together all the time, one thing lead to another and we were a couple, it was the most amazing year, I guess, for the first time I understood the chemistry between my parents. we slogged together we were at each others games we practised Dr. Zhivago and Nanha Munna Rahi Hun with each other and she taught me civics and economics i taught her science and my sister taught us both math. We were young and curious and we were eager too, one thing lead to another and we both blamed ourselves for what happened next and stopped talking to each other. I left on an infamous holiday with my friends and she left town when her dad got transfered and then i took a dive of a cliff or half way up off a cliff which ever way you want to see it. it took us two years of recovery and guilt to realise it wasn't such a bad deal and by then she was in love with another childhood friend and as these things go I was the best man at her wedding. that was "you are the most idiotic person on the planet to let her go love". She is top notch geneticist and I had the honor of being her daughters Godfather.
Two years of high school went by uneventfull Sarah had left but there were others most notably Surabhi and a few others. we were busy charting our careers and i was busy playing "boys code of honor" and still never told her that i liked her because my friend liked her and we three spent some memorable times together. life went on exams came and went and we went our separate ways. graduation was not much difference, except there were friends i had known all my life and i could trust with my eyes closed and we blew into the small college like an tornado, we could do nothing wrong and if some thing did go wrong it was some else's fault, always. There, literally I ran into a tall shy Amazon. 5'11" to my 5'6" and a face that could could be rated at a 100 milli Helens and a confidence that could be found with a micro scope. we were a sight to see, life was funny for a time and we grew into better friends and more comfortable with each other. I would like to believe the college and our company had a good effect, as she bloomed into the girl she could be confident, lively and mischievous but there was this evil witch and u know how things go in nightmares. well it wasn't that bad but we drifted apart she was "this" and her name was Ritu.
"That" was Ankita smart inteligent and I fought with her on the first day of college, and in the final year we started talking and we became close. we spent many hours cuddled up on my sofa or hers, watching all the girly movies she picked. oh and she came from a very conservative Jain family s you can guess how that ended, i had places to go and things to do and she could never tell her parents that she was serious about what was going on, waht happened in college stayed in college and never came back to bite you. she looked real pretty at her wedding too.
There was Vandana in the middle some where of all that she is still a good friend but the entire time we went out for all of three months, every time i took my bike out for long rides or went climbing she would drive my mom and my friends up the wall worrying about me, or she would be on the ground shouting be carefull every ten minutes while i had more important things to do hanging off a cliff, for some reason that lasted three months only. I wonder why ? umm oh i guess it was better for her blood pressure and every one else's sanity, oh she and my best friend from school now and army captain make a good looking couple too.
Then there was the "unrequited mad crushes" first day of PG orientation, we had a difference of opinion, well it was mostly that she formed one, an opinion that is, before she knew someone and passed a judgment and I had an opinion about such people we lasted well about six months , when work load and creepy friends and family traditions proved too much and that was that. she is a friend and with Sarah a peg against which all prospectives are measured and well that should tell you some thing. Her name was Sakshi
The "Disaster" was named Siji, friends we had been friends for ages and some how things seemed to go right for us, the night before her birthday i had a big accident. i called her dutifully and wished her and drowned my self in a ton of pain killers, at three in the night when the meds started wearing off my phone had 23 missed calls, from her. she said there was some thing wrong and I wasnt telling her, and she was so worried she couldnt sleep, this when she was in a altogether different city at that time. We shared some thing, two years down the line my life started going to peices and in the middle of all that she called me and told me that she was worried my spinal injury would affect our relationship in the future and that was the end of that. that was the "Disaster".
Then there were the summer romances, and as some one said "Summer romances begin for all kinds of reasons, but when all is said and done, they have one thing in common. They're shooting stars, a spectacular moment of light in the heavens, fleeting glimpse of eternity, and in a flash they're gone." and so it was the same with me they were blooms of splashing color when my life was Grey they were fireworks on moonless nights and they were women of exceptional talents, they arrived when life was missing some thing they gave life color and moved on or stayed back as friends and but they made a difference to who i am, there was oh and all of them were doctors, one a Doctorate student and two medical Doctors one a student of my Aunt in Bombay and the other a Russian educated but a dear friend. that was Surabhi, Arpita and Megha.
I don't know why i wrote all this, but it does bring back memories some good some bitter most of them where gorgeous bursts of color, and so here it is. These women made me who i am today and except for one all have been and are good friends, they helped me make myself today what i am. they all gone on to do or are doing what they were meant to do, as i said they were the people who filled color into the outlines of my life. some drew in pastel shades and some in splashy hurting colors, but well on wards beyond to life at its best.'
P.S. since every one wonders thats my story over the last 15 years. oh and they were not crushes or infatuations, they would take a life time and some more to recount.
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“Sometimes, insanity is not a tragedy. Sometimes, it’s a strategy for survival. Sometimes… it’s a triumph.”
"I go little insane every night in the darkness so that i can start every day just a little more sane"
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I was Reading this book recently and these two quotes jumped out at me till i was reading them over and over again. These are from a science Fiction book Called Mirror Dance.
"You have won a twisted, broken poor knight, to wear your favor on his sleeve. but its a broken world out there, that we were born into, that rejects us without mercy and ejects us without consultation. at least I wont tilt at windmills for you. I'll send in sappers to mine them, and blast them to the sky. I will break down the doors of hell, and bring up the dead. "
“Real destiny takes everything—the last drop of blood, and strip out your veins to be sure—and gives it back doubled. Quadrupled. A thousand-fold! But you can’t give halves. You have to give it all. I know. I swear. I’ve come back from the dead to speak the truth to you. Real destiny gives you a mountain of life, and puts you on top of it.”
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In a Fight, Its not the size of the dog that matters, its the size of the fight in the dog.
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